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6:00a.m.
And: I am not Laura! (see below)
Mistress V and I were recently commiserating on the real deal behind all the glitz and glamour of being FemDom PhoneFatales. (I know, I know. There’s zillions now and the good ones are getting harder to find, but I’m sure you’re up to the challenge.) We both find it quite amazing (and even revealing when it comes to the male sexual psyche) that our callers, particularly the beloved submissives and slaves, have this Petrarchan (referring to my introduction: I am not Laura!) ideal of us firmly imbedded in their eroticized brains when, in fact, we are working like dawgs.
Or maybe we are just scampering about like cute little puppies.  At least the good ones are.  Because (a simple equation):
Professional Standards   +   Elevated Listening IQ   +   Creative Intuition  +  Zealous Industry   =   Good FemDom Phone
Hey, it’s a dirty job, but…
Which leads me around to a thought I’ve been percolating for quite some time: That I am, perhaps, a bit more to the Female Dominant side than I’ve ever cared to admit, particularly in a public forum such as this blog. Because I do –and will continue to do so– preach about balance in all things, including our sexuality. And because I do so abhor the boxes so regularly forced upon sexuality these days.
(Rules, rules and more rules. This need to attach exact definitions to who we are, to assign each and every precious and unique human spirit to some rigid category regardless of the damage caused, to insist upon black and white uniformity in a veritable crayon box of possibilities–well, it sucks, quite honestly. I find it tedious, even gauche–maybe even a mortal sin.)
So, I’ve addressed three specific things so far in this entry, haven’t I?  Have I confused you?  Not making sense?   Ok, first the mentionables, as we won’t even worry about the unmentionables:
- The Real Work of Appearing Effortlessly Sexy
- FemDom Angela: yes? no? maybe?
- Freeze Dried Sexual Identities
While not immediately discernable, these three things do, in fact, all tie in together. Stay with me on this and it just might begin to make some sense. So lets get to it. Shall we?
About this sex thing and male vs. female. In a way, just in a way, I do believe woman are naturally superior to men. There, I’ve said it out loud. (Does this please you, Submissive Savant?) But, here’s the rub: God made it that way and it’s ok. Superior does not mean better, smarter or any type of “er” whatsoever.
Well, My Lady …
Even as a teenager I thought worshipping Beatrices and Lauras at distance just a little daft. Some antique equivalent of the nerdy boy who has the hots for the head cheerleader.
Not that I don’t have idealized feelings for feminine people of all genders. But that was because I had a loving momma whose unconditional love, while maybe a bit unhealthy, gave me the self-confidence to cope with life.
And I’m glad to have that idealization: it has brought so much beauty to my life. I’m not talking about kink. Certain qualities of femininity have put quickness in my steps and a pretty tune in my heart.
You incline toward female dominance? On a practical level I’m not sure how much you should say. On another level I’m always interested in learning how each woman experiences these feelings. As your pal I’m always interested in learning more about your mind and heart. Friendship is built on those intimacies.
Female dominance doesn’t say much in itself. As you know in my own relationship I get everything from the girlfriend on whose ear I nibble to the woman at whose feet I love to sit to … we’ll draw a veil over that. Other men seem to spend their days chastely cleaning bathrooms. And there are a few – and I’ll own that I sometimes envy them – are with a woman supercharged with kink.
Since I’m too wary to assume every word you’ve written is necessarily a personal expression of desire I have no idea what My Lady Angela might be like in a role of authority
Labels: there’s no way to escape them. One nice thing about a blog is that you can create your personal definition of a word is. To explore and explain – to use a favorite learned word of mine – idiolect.
Ann Coulter is not my superior (except in earning power).
I don’t buy female vs. male but gather there’s still a huge amount of foolish socialization among ordinary people.
But with the right woman I’m happy to melt before her presence a superior but loving person who gives the gift of accepting my adoration.
Angela – a fascinating series of of questions. Thanks for putting forth your “equation” for good femme domdom. Actually, it applies to all phone sex calls, regardless of the variety, but I fear that gets forgotten by too many. As to our various sexual roles, I’d like to be with Plato: “I’d rather doubt than know” — because refusing to accept one pat answer leads to endless exploration and the ability to try many things. If you’d like to try out a potential new role to see how you like it, I’m more than willing to help!
Please expand on your thoughts about female superiority. I think I might have agreed with you on better or smarter if you had claimed them.
I can’t leave without saying to Richard – a sensitive and wise reply. Thanks for the thoughtfulness. Though addressed to Angela, it enriches the blog for us all.
Booklover,
Thanks. I wasn’t sure if I sounded too full of myself or not.
Well said, gentlemen.
If I might join the discussion:
Angela, our erudite and sexy Phone Goddess has an amazing sense of what her industry is about and a clear vision of all it could be. What I am waiting for is The Angela St. Lawrence Guide to Phone Fantasy and Domination to appear on local bookshelves.
Which would, no doubt, take the industry by storm. And if read by Angela’s peers? It would elevate the caller’s usual and expected lack luster experience of parroted pseudo-eroticism (which he has, sadly, come to expect and accept) to an encounter that is beyond sublime, always top-shelf and incredibly satiating.
And to Angela: It really doesn’t matter what verbiage or phraseology one uses when attempting to “encapsulate” all that you are. You know, I know and all your callers know: You are always running the show.
Personally, I am anxiously awaiting a book of any kind! And, as one of Angela’s peers, I would welcome any insight into the subject at hand here.
I consider myself neither dominant or submissive. However, if I had to pick between the two, I would say I am a TAD more dominant, although not claiming to know all that there is to know on the subject by any means. I refer to myself as a “switch”, as I truly believe they are both simply a frame of mind which can be shifted at any point and time.
As far as woman being superior…I couldn’t agree more with your logic!
Angela, my precious, you would have saved some of that obvious industry you invest in your outstanding career if you had dribbled all of these nuggets out over several days. So much said, so much philosophy shared, so much provocative brain food delivered. Thank you from the bottom of my cerebrum. I was brought up by a fragile/tough single mom and a bigger than life Swedish grandmom, so I had an estrogen rich early childhood. I confess some confusion in male-female roles but mayabe less than I think, as I love strong women yet really enjoy taking care of them.
As far as applying entrepreneurial standards to your business, you clearly excel at every term in your equation for success. And you forgot “heart and soul” as two of the additive values you offer.
And then there is the Card Catalog of Kink. I personally don’t care if the judge presiding at my divorce is wearing panties…..
As I sip my coffee (my monicker is based on fact), I really have enjoyed reading your blog and the comments. And I love gray areas! The fun, the future, the reality is in the gray. Otherwise, I guess we all become weary from jumping from one box into another.
In any other industry, Angela would be the annual recipient of free trips to Acapulco, plaques, bonuses and accolades as the “top producer.” See not only has epitomized success in a business filled with the clueless, she has done so with the utmost class and values. No need to comment on her notorious effect on my libido (I am clearly not alone here either).
Thank you for the great blog and for this forum.
“Feeze Dried Sexual Identities”
That’s my girl!
You certainly are superior…